My Own Backyard – Lessons in Perspective III

by Gig Girl on August 18, 2010

Old woman or young lady? It's all how you look at it...

Achieving a first time ever threepeat, Gig Girl is posting one last blog on perspective for theme week. Please click here and here to read the first two posts (I promise, I’m done after this one this week).

When it comes to perspective, the Hubs and I are wired very differently.  Perhaps it’s a guy/(Gig) girl thing, perhaps it’s a thing nurtured into us from our families or perhaps its just some inherent and unalterable DNA that makes us view the exact same situation with completely different perspectives.  I don’t know.

What I do know is the Hubs is an unbelievable task-master who, when faced with any given situation, takes it one grain at a time until he achieves what he’s set out to do.  I envy his ability to systematically check things off his list and finish EVERYTHING he starts.  Quite honestly, the man is a machine.  He exhausts me.

However, because Hubs methodically attacks one item at a time, his perspective, while sharply focused, tends to occasionally (please read “occasionally” as “quite often”) morph into a fixated tunnel vision.  He is a man (albeit an adorable and precious man) of routine and systematic approach. Deviating from his conventional mindset of how “things should be done” or where “things should be” can be really tough for him. I tease him about acting like a pitbull on a bone and that he needs to step back sometimes and readjust his perspective so he can take in the big picture.  (I’m very convinced that one of the reasons why I’ve been put in his life is to let him know when he’s hammering away on a single nail…despite the fact that the entire house has already collapsed down around him).

Case in point – a few weeks back I found him frantically searching for the Parsley in the cabinets.  This was his perspective:

And this is actually (I swear this is exactly how the cabinet was) what the whole picture entailed:

Lest you think this is a Hubs bashing post…I’m here to offer up my own perspective Archilles heel.  Yes, I am a spontaneous, unconventional, big-picture-perspective kind of girl.  I don’t tend to get hung up in the minutia or in standard operating procedures (aka how things “should” be done) and that has served me well through a divorce and my days as a single parent.  However, the flip side of that means that occasionally drinking in the entire big picture completely overwhelms me.

Case in point – after I quit my job and decided to try to start my own business, the action item list was endless.  If not for the Hubs helping every day to keep me focused and motivated I would have simply hyperventilated at the sight of my lengthy to-do list and eventually the authorities would have found me in sweatpants curled up in the fetal position in the corner of my pseudo office…or (if I were feeling slightly less dramatic) I would have just hit the mall every day.  Either way – you get the point.  I constantly look to the Hubs for help on keeping my perspective focused.  (I’m very convinced that one of the reasons why he’s been put into my life is to make sure that, when I need to build a house, I don’t just hurl the hammer and head for the proverbial hills.) We take turns creating balance and teasing eachother as needed – it’s comforting

But old habits (or inherent DNA) die hard.

A few weeks ago, my dad and I were talking about current events. We talked about the Gulf oil spill, the floundering economy, the war and various other depressing current events.  I felt that big picture anxiety start to creep in on me.

Gig Girl: (heavy sigh) Seriously, Dad, what is good in the world?

Dad: What the hell are you worrying about the world for?  Everything good is in your own backyard, kid.


An excellent point, Dad.  Score 1 for small picture perspective (and yes, I say this knowing full well that my darling, lawnorexic pitbull-on-a-bone husband is completely going to fixate on how dead his grass looks in this picture…). XOXOXO :)

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Jenn August 19, 2010 at 9:34 am

It’s been a dry, hot Summer and you’ve been saving money and the world by not watering the lawns. They’re overrated anyway. It’s what’s on them that counts.

Gig Girl August 19, 2010 at 9:39 am

Could NOT agree more, Jenn! :)

Kristin August 19, 2010 at 10:48 am

but knowing Scott the way I do my first thought was “Scott’s not going to like how the lawn looks in that picture”.
Having a baby………who will be in charge of EVERYone…….will change a lot.

Gig Girl August 19, 2010 at 11:25 am

K, as someone who has known the Hubs longer than I have – you are ABSOLUTELY correct. As he reads everything before I post we did actually have to have a conversation about how it’s okay to use that pic…and that all the creatures on that grass make it more than green enough for me!!

Next year after the babe is here the Hubs will probably just concrete the whole backyard since his tending time will be COMPLETELY diminished :)

Jill Grant August 20, 2010 at 10:07 am

So sweet! Also, maybe our husbands are related? :)

Gig Girl August 20, 2010 at 3:23 pm

Is your hubby a small picture lawn maniac too?!? :) It totally must be a guy thing!!!

Lindsey August 24, 2010 at 9:47 am

The spice rack comparison shots are absolutely hilarious! I love your dad’s words of wisdom.
True indeed!

Melissa B. August 25, 2010 at 8:23 am

We certainly have different perspectives in our house, too. But I agree with your Dad. Every so often I take a look around me, and thank my stars for how lucky I am. SITS sent me by, and I’m glad they did!

Over the River and Through the Woods…

Melissa August 27, 2010 at 2:26 pm

I LOVE this post! I try to always look for the bigger picture too, or the whole cabinet whichever that is!

Stopping by from SITS!

Delia August 28, 2010 at 7:56 am

Your dad is very wise, and so are you! Visiting from SITS Saturday Sharefest. Happy Saturday.

Charlene - Balance Beam August 28, 2010 at 7:59 am

Men HAVE to tackle one thing at a time because they CAN’T multi-task. (I actually wrote about this recently as well sort of). And the “tunnel-vision”… I can SO relate! Ah well… we still love them! :-)

Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!

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