About Me

On December 31st my husband and I planted our proverbial boot squarely on the backside of 2009 and gladly bid her adieu.  The year left us exhausted.  We lived through that ever tumultuous first year of marriage (as someone who’s had two separate first years of marriage I feel completely qualified in my “ever-tumultuous” diagnosis…it can’t just be me?).  We navigated the unfamiliar territory of making our new blended family as fully functional as possible with former spouses, new spouses, in-laws, out-laws and found creative terms to replace the dreaded “step” moniker.  We braced ourselves against the financial decline the year dumped on everyone.  We struggled to give my 6 year old son, Owen, a brother or sister and, when those efforts failed, we began the infertility process.  All are painful or difficult memories for sure.  But what I’ll carry with me most every time I think back on 2009 is the fact that our January and December miscarriages were like two painful and monstrous bookends on a year I could not wait to shelve FOREVER.

In 2010, we have reprioritized.  So in the midst of the greatest economic downturn since the Great Depression and with nothing more than prayer, a humble savings and a promise from my parents that they will finish off their basement so we will never go homeless (love you both!)  I quit my full-time-full-salaried-full-benefits-with-a-big-girl-office-and-even-a-window job.  (And yes, every time I read this sentence I have a mini panic attack punctuated by one medium sized dry heave.  There, I’m better now.)

Fear aside, I know I’m tired of constantly trying to strike that ever-elusive perfect balance of the working mom between professional success and familial dedication.  I’m determined that there has to be a better way for moms to be smart and savvy contributors yet still be present for their families.  Hence, the birth of “The Gig Girl”.

For the entire duration of my stay at home tenure, I will explore various “gigs” that will help allow me to perform the only job I truly want – being Owen’s mom (well that and of course, also help me avoid permanent residency in my folks’ cellar).   The options seem pretty endless…but are they valid?  I might try temping and I will definitely explore the vast and vague “work from home” wasteland that so far seems plagued with fraud and scam (but there has to be some legit opportunities??).  Perhaps I will mystery shop (yes, really.), or attempt to delve into the realm of “coupon bliss” I keep hearing about (you know, where you see a stay at home mom buy $250 worth of groceries for a nickel…how does that happen??)  I’m even formulating my own Virtual Assistant business plan to help make ends meet.

Most blogs ask for you to “walk with them as they chronicle their journey”.  Warning:  This is way less of a walk and way more of a unchoreographed cliff dive.   (Scary, but even I will admit if you can get past the nausea from the altitude the free fall buzz is kinda nice).  So take the leap with me as I journal the trials and tribulations of extending my stay at home mom life expectancy as long as I possibly can all while endeavoring to maintain a modicum of my social sanity.  Will this be a success story or a cautionary tale?  Who knows?  Either way we’re forging ahead on our own terms.

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Diane Prouty April 6, 2010 at 1:00 pm

you are one hell of an engaging writer! maybe your hometown newspaper is looking for a features writer/editor. i have no doubt that you could write copy for them that would keep people reading. like you–know the mommy take on “sex and the city” and carrie brackshaw (wasn’t that her name?). anyway, i hope your journey of financial solvency and stay-at-home mommy status have found some kind of happy marriage. i hope to drop in on your blog often enough to keep abreast of all the hopefully wonderful things 2010 holds in store for you and your family. found you on SITS btw. drop in on my blog any time–the virtual welcome door is ALWAYS open and i love getting the comments/feedback.
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Gig Girl April 6, 2010 at 1:11 pm

Thank you for the kind words Diane!! I appreciate it!!!
Always happy to hear from a fellow SITSTAHHHH. I’ll check you out today!

Natalie at Mommy on Fire April 22, 2010 at 9:32 pm

Wow. What a year – as someone who has also had two separate first years of marriage, I understand completely what you are speaking of. I applaud you for having the courage to do what you feel is right – it seems that you are a woman of faith, so I can share with you that God 1) has a plan for you and 2) it’s always good EVEN WHEN IT MAY NOT SEEM SO GOOD RIGHT NOW.

So great to meet you – thank you so much for stopping by my blog today. The discovery of yours is a gift!

Gig Girl April 23, 2010 at 7:25 am

Nice to meet you too Natalie! I couldn’t agree with you more. My husband and I have been very grateful for our shared faith and belief that everything that’s happened has all been part of God’s plan for us. We literally see proof of that every day. It has helped give us peace about some of the the things that we’ve gone through and strengthened us.
It sounds like we have a lot in common…I’m looking forward to reading more about you!

Dawn July 22, 2010 at 1:09 pm

Just found you ~ absolutely envious of your courage in leaving your job! Best of luck…I’ll be following, & perhaps will have a similar experience next year!

ruthy August 8, 2010 at 11:20 pm

my hubby and I got married february 20th 2010. we quit our job and have been traveling for 6 months…now we’re back trying to find jobs and a place to live…its an adventure, its fun, its scary but it’s the best thing we’ve ever done. I’m excited to follow your journey!

Ellen August 13, 2010 at 10:08 am

I’m way impressed and just want to say GOOD LUCK on this journey! Thanks for finding me on blogfrog, and I will continue to come back for more updates on your life. I would love to be a SAHM but the stars have not aligned yet. Maybe one day.

All the best,
Ellen

Dayna August 15, 2010 at 8:00 pm

I agree, what a year! I don’t know whether or not you found your “gig” yet but one thing’s for sure. You could definitely have a future in writing! I am really enjoying your blog and style of writing! So glad I found you through the blog frog! I look forward to getting to know you better.
God bless you in your decision to “stay home”.
Dayna

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