The View From Here – Lessons in Perspective I

by Gig Girl on August 16, 2010

Vase or Two Faces? It's all how you look at it...

A lot of blogs ardently adhere to “theme week” formatting.  I read these blogs, I enjoy what a theme week provides to me as a reader and I truly look forward to each new post in a particular motif.  However, as a still green blogger, rookie work-from-home business owner, newbie stay-at-home mommy and completely out-of-practice pregalita (I’m fairly certain that’s an actual term),  I am self-aware enough to realize that Gig Girl has wayyyyyy too short of an attention span to really stick to this format on a regular basis.

However, these past few weeks have delivered some undeniable (some good, some bad…all invaluable) life lessons to me regarding perspective.  So I figured I’d give theme week a whirl.

As many of you know, the past few weeks have been dedicated to rehashing some painful details about my infertility struggle and the almost unbelievable chain of events regarding actually getting (and staying) pregnant.  I went into these posts with a very definite, structured and somewhat (okay, very) self-absorbed perspective about everything the Hubs and I went through the past several months.  From where I sat I felt a whole lot of vulnerability, a hearty dose of solitude, a dash of guilt (over Dot’s dismissal) and the occasional unhealthy dram of “poor me” mentality.  Then I hit “Make Public” on my little blog screen and the comments started coming in through my blog, through Gig Girl’s Facebook page and through my personal email accounts.

Some were from friends and family:

  • GG, I know this is a very personal thing for you, and I thank you for sharing…Hugs to you and the hubs, nobody should have to deal with what you went through. And Kudos to Dr. T for realizing your pain and actually making a house call!
  • The title is correct.  “When there are no words”….There are no words I can think of to describe how incredible the two of you are.  The little one is going to be as lucky as Owen to have such great parents.
  • I can’t tell you how happy it makes my heart to know that you have been blessed in so many ways since I last saw you. Again I tell you, what a gem you are! A lovely person deserving of all good things.

Some were from complete strangers who reached out and shared:

  • I am so impressed with DR T coming to your house, being there to tell you what happened. It says a lot about what kind of person she is. As for Dot, All of us complain about our jobs, etc…but what she did was just completely unacceptable…and I agree with the reasons to let her go. Your First and Last name was the final straw for me.  HUGS to you my new friend.
  • Congratulations on the good news. I had one miscarriage many years ago and was very nervous when I found out I was pregnant in 2007, especially when I had a scare with that pregnancy at 6 weeks. That little one is turning 2 this Sunday and his sister turned 5 months old today. I wish you all the best and lots of rest in your last trimester!

Some made me laugh:

Some made me cry:

  • I cry at every word.  So well written, so emotional, and so close to my heart.  Infertility sucks.  There is no other way to put it.  Words cannot express how happy I am for you. I’m thinking pink.  :)
  • Wow, tears in my eyes and many many many congratulations to you. I do believe that the universe and God tells you stuff….points you in the right direction if you’re listening. I’m so glad that HE spoke to you and gave you this miracle too. Hugs.

Some came from women who have struggled longer and harder than I have and some came from moms who have never given fertility a second thought. Regardless of the source, every single word made me feel like they were all walking right beside me.  No longer vulnerable, guilty and alone…I was unexpectedly given a fresh, encouraging, heartening, empowering and humbling new perspective on this episode in my life.  For that, I am grateful.

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Kara Reeves August 17, 2010 at 11:38 am

so enjoyed reading this. It made me smile!

Sue Mustapha August 17, 2010 at 1:18 pm

believes in sisterhood. Where would we be without our girls.

Heather August 17, 2010 at 2:48 pm

what a beautiful post.. and you are so full of gratitude, that’s what makes it special..

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